Romance scam alert for online daters

Peter was the victim of Kerry Gray, a serial fraudster who posed as a nurse named Charlotte and stole nearly £3,500.

I was conned out of £3,500 by internet catfish Kerry Gray

Peter matched on a dating app with someone who called herself Charlotte, described as a nurse with a bubbly personality and a wealthy background. They exchanged WhatsApp messages and voice notes, shared photos from what looked like her workday, and talked about daily life. Peter felt a real connection and even told his mum and sister about the person he was getting to know. After about a year, he realized Charlotte was not who she claimed to be. In reality, she was Kerry Gray, and Peter had been defrauded of nearly £3,500.

This case illustrates how romance scams can unfold over months, using believable details to Gain trust before asking for money. It also shows how victims may overlook red flags when an online relationship feels genuine and emotionally charged.

Romance scams thrive on emotional vulnerability and slow-building trust. They exploit the same human desire for connection that makes online dating appealing, often using convincing photos and personal stories to create a false life. This is not just a private loss; it highlights a broader risk in digital dating platforms where identities can be easily manufactured and conversations staged.

Experts say platforms and financial institutions need stronger identity checks, clearer reporting options, and rapid support for users who fear they might be targeted. Public awareness helps, but the consequences—financial strain, stress, and stigma—persist for the victims. A coordinated response from tech companies, regulators, and community groups is essential to reduce harm.

Highlights

Online connections are valuable; they should also be protected by caution and clear checks.